Sunday, May 12, 2019

Mother’s Day

Wishing everyone an easy and happy Mother’s Day, especially those of us who are from abusive homes.

I woke up knowing this is going to be an emotional and difficult day since this is the first Mother’s Day that my mother will not be in walking around in this world.

My mother passed away about three months ago, yet my family chose not to tell me she passed away until a month after she died.  The only reason I was contacted by my father via email was because my mother left me something and he needed my address to send it to me.

This year also marks the 40th anniversary of my father disowning me after confronting my mother in a family therapy session about the abuse that went on in my childhood home.  Prior to the confrontation my parents kept hounding me to know why I attempted to take my life.  My father didn’t approve of my answer.

 I’m still processing all of these losses.

Monday, May 6, 2019

The Incest Secret

By Vicki Polin, MA

Recently an article was published regarding an incest survivor in Australia, who’s stepfather sexually assaulted his stepchild over 1800 times.

The truth of the matter is that many children who are raped inside their homes are often raped daily.  To the best of my knowledge there is no research into this topic.  No one knows the statistics on what the average number of times an incest survivor who is sexually assaulted within the home. 

There are various types of incestuous sexual predators.  Some relatives only offend their daughters, others are only interested in their sons.  There are also other offenders who are only attracted to children within a particular age group, while others offenders, age and or sex doesn’t matter.  

There is also a subgroup of incest survivors who stated that their abuse continued on into their adulthood.  Even though this group of survivors were biologically adults, emotionally/psychologically they were still children.

I was just playing around with numbers and this is what I came up with.  Considering these facts, why is it very few advocacy and news media groups addressing the issue of incest.

Raped 1 time per day (365 days in a year) x 18 years = 6570
Raped 1 time per day (365 days in a year) x 9 years = 3285
Raped 1 time per day (365 days in a year x 6 years = 2190
Raped 1 time per day (365 days in a year x 3 year = 1095
Raped 1 time per day (365 days in a year x 1 year = 365