To Survivors of Incest and other forms of Child Abuse Regarding Father's Day

Father's day is approaching, if you are a survivors of incest, remember you are not alone.  Not all father's should or need to be honored.  Just like any holiday, be kind to yourself.  Surround yourself with people who inspire you to heal.

Remember you are good and always have been. What happened to you was a crime.  It's NOT your fault.

Father's Day and Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

© (2003) Vicki Polin, MA, LCPC

Most people don't stop to think about, or understand how difficult it can be for survivors of childhood abuse on holidays (which include mother's day and father's day).  These days can bring back memories (flashbacks), make someone who doesn't have contact with their families to feel depressed, lonely, out of place, etc. 

If you are a survivor this is a reminder to do something good for yourself; go for a walk, ride your bike, go to see a good movie, and if you feel the need -- it's OK to cry. Some people find it helpful to to be with others who either lost their father or also won't be with family members.  Those who will have contact with their families may have to make special plans to debrief with a good friend afterwards. 

Like all holidays, it's important that you take time out to celebrate YOUR life.  Many survivors have to re-parent themselves, on both father's day and mother's day don't forget to celebrate the parent-within.